Thursday, March 20, 2014

Product Reviews + Asian Household Rules

Thursday, March 20, 2014

                                                                   Feminist Reflections is a feature I created on my blog to share my personal thoughts.



Now moving onto my post about Asian Households :) Let's meet mineeeee.
(This isn't actually my family, just who they look familiar to)

Meet my Ammi/Mama/Mom.

Meet my Abbu/Dad

Meet my older Brother/Papaye

Meet my older Sister/Baji

Meet my little brother
(Yes, my little one looks exactly like SRK)

& this is me.
I'm not a baby, just this picture relates to me the most(thinker,dreamer, angry woman)


In every Asian(South Asian) household, traditional or modern. They're are RULES that are considered laws here. My house is traditional and is never going to change BUT I will change it :D (These are the actual rules).

ASIAN HOUSEHOLD RULES: 

1) Even if you are perfectly capable of handling your life as an adult, your parents still control you.

I'm an adult yet I have a curfew. That's embarrassing. It is 7 p.m in the winter and 9 p.m in the summer lool. I hated this when I was younger! :( Now, I don't really care because my social life is non-existent, I barely get any time because of university, studies, work etc. I understand why my parents did this though to protect me so I wouldn't get corrupted. It's not fair my brothers get to stay out till 4 a.m. Very mean.. I'm giving both my daughter and son curfews! Although, until they turn 18 - they won't have one.


2) You can't move out before marriage.

Goodbye independence .. 

I don't understand why. I can cook, clean, and work for myself. I'm my mama's "Chand ka tukda" and she wants me in front of her at all times. Ehh .. even the moon goes down. You might as well let your daughters move out and get used to their absence otherwise you will be an emotional wreck after they move out when they get married.

3) You have to learn how to cook everything otherwise no one will marry you.

Tell me again, who marries for FOOD? You would marry a good cook? What if if she is an evil mastermind secretly wanting to poison you? Think again. I don't mind cooking for husband. I don't mind cooking for anyone. I'll love doing that but he's gotta help out too. I'll be his wife, not his SERVANT. He can't just expect me to take care of his tummy the whole entire time, he can help himself sometimes too.

4) You cannot marry a non-Kashmiri.

Yes, that's right. Since I'm Kashmiri, from Pakistan - I'm only allowed to marry another Kashmiri and they have to be from certain areas in Kashmir too. Oh, the torture .. I can't marry someone from Jammu Kashmir, it has it be from Azad. That makes NO sense to me. I cannot marry a Pakistani. I'm not really Pakistani since our state is separate from Pakistan - we have our languages, culture, food. president etc. So marrying a man of Turkish descent, Iraqi, Afghan, Kurdish etc is out of the question. I don't really care who I marry as long as the man's human.

5) No haram relationships before marriage.
I'm fine with that, all halal-ness here. Although, it makes no sense to me when my parents say to my brother "Have you found a girl for yourself? Why aren't you married?" Ehh leh .. Helloooo?? You aren't supposed to talk to stranger, but then all the sudden you marry a stranger. Tsk-tsk.

6) You cannot pick your own husband, your parents decide.

SAY WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT??

Imagine marrying someone you don't love. Hello, arrange marriages and goodbye to love marriages. The women in my family cannot have love marriages, but the men can. Double standards though. Half of all American marriages end up in divorce, most are love marriages too. Arrange marriages tend to last longer as well. 

7) You are only allowed to become a doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer or teacher. 

Oh the pressures .. This rule was really depressing in my high school years and going off to college. I sooo wanted to become an artist, but of course parents rules have stopped me yet again. Those options of careers are actually so difficult! Like out of the most oldest, maid, and most worked hard for they choose .. I guess I'll be killing myself to make into medical school now but of course, it's my chose to go into medicine. No one can force me. I'm too strong minded. I just learned to compromise and accept reality. Besides, becoming a Psychiatrist has become my dream now.

8) No Kuthey/Billi allowed since you are enough.

The most saddest rule of all ! :( :( :( Being called an animal.

I love cats and dogs and will get them in my house no matter what! Hehe ..

That's all about Asian Household Rules guys, thaankyou for reading!  If you have any rules that aren't listed here, then let me know. I wanna know which ones are yours :) Until my next post loves .. I will try updating 2-3 times a week more often. Leave your blog link in the comments, I love checking out new blogs - Will follow back mostly x


Next post will hopefully be Books everyone should read :)


“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” 



With love, Benish Khan.
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30 comments:

  1. Loooooooooooool this was awesome! I can relate

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  2. Your blog is so hilarious! You say the right things in such a unique abd funny way

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  3. What a fun read! We appreciate the mention and kind words!
    Tanya
    Avasiare Professional Skincare and Cosmetics

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    1. Aww anytime, I loved your products. Hope you're well x

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  4. I love this!!
    I have to say that I broke rule No.4! ;) x.

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    1. Thank you :) lool aww you're kashmiri as well?

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  5. I knew a few rules already, but you made me learn something today! You're funny (:

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  6. Haha as a fellow Asian this cracked me up. I had to follow you on bloglovin :D

    www.loadofchic.com

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    1. Yaaaaay I followed you as well :)

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  7. Hi! Cute site! I use Witch Hazel as well, its a life-saver! Thanks for the follow <3

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  8. Aw thanks so much Ruby! For some reason, it's not letting me reply to you. I love the pictures you post though, nps :)

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  9. Your blog is sooooo cutee! I love your new layout, so colorful and unique plus you write well too :) you'll go a long way in life! God bless xxx

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    1. Aww what a sweet comment xo thank you so much love.

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  10. Witch hazel has been amazing for me too. I never tried the rose and the peach ones though.
    Bright and Shiny

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    1. The Rose Petal is my favorite one :) You should defo. try it!

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  11. Wonderful post...I like your blog.^^
    Maybe follow each other on bloglovin?
    Let me know follow you then back.
    Lovely greets Nessa

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    1. Thank you, I just checked yours out. It's amazing! Defo. following :) tc x

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  12. Thank you so much for the follow.
    Follow you back on bloglovin.
    Btw,I'm also on Instagram,maybe you like my account?
    Lovely greets from germany ;-)

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  13. Thayers and Rens are amazing producttsssss!!!! Glad you make a honest reviews unlike people who boost on anything. Can you do reviews on motives cosmetics and organic products as well? thank you! Keep up the good work x

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    1. Aww thanks so much, glad you appreciate it! I'll be sure to do reviews on organic products xo best wishes

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  14. my mom always said the way to a man's heart is through is stomach and my aunty would say hold his stomach ransom ... guess that's just a way?

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  15. Aw, I think that's just a way - in the end people look beyond that and into personality :)

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  16. hahaha that was funny :)) great blog, i hope i can use witch hazel too. does it work like coconut oil?

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    1. Thank youu :) :) Witch Hazel isn't oil, it works as freshener/toner x It helps brighten skin and minimizes pores. You just leave it on and apply any other makeup or skincare products. Let me know what you think of it once you have tried it!

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