Femme's Reflections is a feature I created on my blog to share my personal reflections.
I've had a lot of criticism in life because I'm skinny. I'm a size 0, most people believe size 0 is unhealthy, but it's not always. People assume I starve myself and I'm constantly on a diet. I mean, even my doctor once thought I was ..
"Are you on a diet?" .. No.
"Do you eat on time?" .. I do, but sometimes I don't feel hungry, so I skip it.
"That's it! You're on a diet! You're anorexic"Okay.. Really? If I'm not hungry at times and I don't eat, it makes me anorexic. Maybe it's because I ate something fuller in the day? Dieting is different, that's when you purposely want to lose weight. I don't want to lose weight, neither gain. If I do gain, yippie but If I don't, it's no problem at all.
Being skinny doesn't always mean healthy, but just so you know, I'm only 5 feet so actually being size 0 is fine for me. Maybe for my age, I might be underweight but come on I'm normal for my height. I eat three times a day, sometimes even four. I'm addicted to junk food, and I even eat vegetables .. except Broccoli. I hate Broccoli.
I can't help the way I look or weigh, I've always been skinny my entire life. I find it really harsh when family and friends tell me to "gain some weight" What if I told you to lose some weight? Not nice when the tables turn on you eh? Some people can't help being skinny, just like some people can't help being fat.
I have a cousin who is 5'4, and she is less than 100 pounds. It's not because she's on a diet or starves herself, I've lived with her in the past for months. I've seen her eat pretty much everything. Sometimes, she helps herself to two plates. The point is, she's skinny because she can't help it. There's some thing called genetics. She was pregnant, but even looked skinny when she was. She lost all the post-baby weight without doing anything under four months after she had a child. You know, sometimes skinny can be a blessing :)
I'm allowed to love my bones, if people are allowed to love their fat. It's not fair to call one girl "twigs" and the other "chubba labba." Both should not be mistreated.
I don't see anything wrong with being overweight. Marilyn Monroe and Kim Kardashian are considered to have the ideal body. They're not skinny or fat, more curvy than most women. Not everyone can have that "perfect" body though. You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful, neither do you need to have fat in the right places to be beautiful.
I just don't think it justifies people to make fun of skinny people. I don't think one weight category defines everything. Skinny is not perfection, nor fat is perfection. Every size and shape is beautiful. People just need to be more open-minded and instead judge people from their minds, and not from their physical forms.
People should be more appreciative and others and more encouraging. Beauty comes in great sizes, look at Adele, Jessica Simpson, Scarlett Johannson, Aishwarya Rai etc. I don't see anything wrong with someone's weight until it personally threatens their lifestyle, then it might become a problem if it's anorexia or obesity. If it doesn't harm someone, then stop making it a big deal.
"The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe