Feminist Reflections is a feature I created on my blog to share my personal thoughts.
It is alright for a woman to hit a man?
NO. My URL is called Feminist Reflections.
It's actually derived from my instagram Femme Fatale. Am I a feminist though? To some extent, I am because I like to be independent, I like to empower other women and MEN, and I do not want mistreatment of women and MEN. I would like being equal to a man, but it's fine if I'm not. I don't exactly fully support the cause of feminism though. I don't fight for equality for women only rather I fight against mistreatment for BOTH genders which includes intersex people. The actual cause of feminism is a bit strange, because you're seeking equality for only women, what about men? It contradicts the whole cause of "equality." It is a good cause, but I believe it's incomplete. I like taking Feminist Reflections to a more higher level where feminism acknowledges both genders equally :) You readers are probably aware of how much I speak against mistreatment of women such as, this post.
Scenario 1: A woman gets hit by a man. Almost everyone declares that is abuse and the male is violent.
Scenario 2: A man gets hit by a woman. Almost everyone declares it was the man's fault, he must be harassing her.
THAT'S NOT FAIR.
I don't care who provoked who, keep your hands to yourself. I don't believe in the stereotypes that women are weaker and you can't ever hit them if they hit you, I know some girls who can fight. I hate it when women are abused, but I also hate it when men are abused too. You don't hit a man because you're insulted. No, curse him out but NEVER raise your hand on him or throw objects at him unless it's self-defense. It shocks me how some other feminists fight for women's equality and are against double standards, but then they contradict themselves by imposing a double standard themselves. How can you fight for equality and then do the opposite?
Here are some examples in books where this trend is going.In the book, Duff, Bianca throws water at Wesley for calling her a "Duff" which means Designated Ugly Fat Friend. I don't agree with the water throwing either, but it's just water so I'll excuse it. Then she slaps him after they hook up, honestly why? Then does it again. What right does it give you to slap a man just because you're angry? Wesley wasn't a bad guy, he's actually sweet. Nora Roberts has several books where the heroine slaps/punches the hero for nothing. This trend is now becoming common in New Adult books which baffles my mind since most of the books already have violent men abusing women.
Bottom line: If it's not self-defense or some kind of duel, then you don't have any place to hit a man just as it's not a man's place to hit a woman. If a woman fights against double standards, just don't contradict yourself because it's hypocritical. It doesn't make you a "strong woman" when you hit a man, in my eyes, that's rather pathetic and violent because you know most likely he won't hit you back. It makes you strong when you have patience and respect the other human being. I don't accept this behavior in men, and neither do I accept it in women. Abuse is abuse whether it's from a man or a woman. You have to give respect in order to get respect.
Have you guys noticed abuse on men before whether in books or reality? What's your take on it?
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“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” —Nora Ephron