A Personal Tale + Stop Bullying. ♥

Femme's Reflections is a feature I created on my blog to share my personal reflections.

I thought I do a post about a very serious topic, bullying.. A lot of people suffer from it, I've suffered from it as a kid as well. Let's help end bullying and put a smile on everyone's faces now :) Instead of bringing people down, let's bring them up. Some people believe bullying isn't that serious and others are dumb if they let others get to them.. well sorry to say cupcakes, but NOT everyone is like you! People are created identical, we're all bones inside but our personalities are different. Cyber bullying is just as dangerous, sometimes even more because it's verbal abuse they're getting. I don't understand the point of hating, why waste your time bringing someone down? Bullying leads to suicide guys, it is harmful and not healthy .. Today, you called someone a "fat cow." Do you want to have the guilt of their suicide tomorrow? Treat people the way you want to be treated.s

When people go online, don't cyber bully them - instead make them smile.

Other people believe it's okay to pick on someone. Some do it and say "I'm just messing with them. It's just a joke." Again, you seriously need a reality check! That's not an excuse to make a fool out of someone and your own too.

My personal story
I suffered from bullying when I was six years old - I just remember this grumpy kid used to bother me. I would go home from school and during the bus ride, he would sit next to me and pull my hair really hard. He'll bother me, go through my things, steal my food and money, and say "You're weird" and call me other names as well. This went on for a couple of months, I didn't know how to stop this. He was in fifth grade, while I was barely in second. As a kid, I was pretty small. I'm still small, so it makes me an "easy target." Finally, I put an end to this and told my mother. She told the bus driver, and the kid got in some big trouble - probably suspension. I never saw him after that, he left me alone.

That was one of the most proudest moments of my life, I mean come on? I was six years old guys and I stood up for myself! You can and .. should too.

Even though, that is gone. It still continues to happen today through. Ever been called a terrorist before? I'm Muslim, and after 9/11 there has been a lot of prejudice towards us. Not everyone does it though. I will do a post on the Misconceptions about Muslims & Islam soon, so there's more awareness about it :) Yes, I created this blog mostly to make a change - not just to simply blog about beauty and books.

Cyberbullying 
That is something I never had happened to me before, but ever since I've gotten a lot of followers on Instagram - it came with it. People take other people lives too seriously - it's just odd people leave me lectures on what's good or bad. Others feel it's their right to not advise me, but instead judge. Some give an excuse "I'm being honest" or "It's my opinion, not judging" Uhmm .. opinions only come on something/someone when you judge them. Judgments aren't bad at all sometimes. If I say Angelina Jolie is beautiful, that's a judgement. The point is, it should never cross the point of being vicious or straight up hating.

Let's all take a recap on what's an opinion and what's hating :D Might make you feel stupid, but it's worth it.

Opinion #1 "You are beautiful"

Hating # 1 "You're ugly."

If you don't find someone beautiful, just keep it to yourself - DON'T ever call someone ugly or bad looking. I don't even understand what's the point of saying someone's ugly anyway? How would you feel if someone called you ugly? What if your mom called you ugly? Strange ..

Opinion # 2 "You shouldn't wear a lot of makeup, I believe less suits you more"

Hating # 2 "Why do you cake your face soo much?? The contouring/shading you do just looks horrible. Awful makeup."

Notice the difference in the usage of words. I believe an opinion isn't bad at all, it's like constructive criticism. There aren't bad opinions, there is just bad judgement. Don't assume things about someone ever without getting to know them, it is hurtful. If you still continue to say "I'm just giving an opinion, for their own good." Constructive criticism should always be given in private, there's no reason to publicly bash someone on the internet in front of hundreds or thousands of people. It's even more weird, when that "opinion" comes from a fake trolling people, like please get over yourself. Jealousy is a disease, I hope you realize one day that you're a beautiful individual yourself so you don't have to go out picking someone else's flaws.

Being humble will go a long way, arrogance and cockiness will always go down the gutter.

No one likes an arrogant person, I find it so disturbing when someone is so beautiful yet they're so .. full of themselves :/ Way to ruin a beautiful face. Anyway, I feel not many people are being real, it's like a trend these days on who's more popular or who's more faker. I still believe everyone has some good in them, humanity still exists.

Celebrities 
They get bullied too. Kim Kardashian, Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus, etc.

This is a really sick world sometimes, don't be cruel to someone else's daughter/son, because in the future karma will hit you when it happens to you or your kids. If you can't bring someone's spirit up, then don't bring it down either! Make love, not war. Give the next person you see a smile, hug each otherrrrr! :)

Okay.. well hugging a stranger is creepy but do it anyway after getting to know them.

There's a lot of talent and beauty to go around, don't pick on others to make yourself feel better. Humble yourselves, if you see someone being bullied! Stand up for them, don't just stand and watch or even worse join in. See the beauty in others, and people will see the beauty in you .. :) Have a good attitude x

I hope you guys enjoyed reading it as I enjoyed writing this, I hope we can make a difference together! Thank you for reading as always. Leave you blog links in the comments & I'll be sure to check them out and follow :) Stay in tuned beautiful people..  

"See the beauty in others, and people will see the beauty in you" - Benish Khan

With love,

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